The Good Girl Syndrome

Breaking Free from the Need to Please.

Have you ever agreed to something just to avoid disappointing someone? Have you put others’ needs before your own, even when it drained you?

Many of us grow up believing that being nice means saying yes to everything. But constantly ignoring your own needs leads to exhaustion, resentment, and loss of self.

Here’s the truth: Saying no doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you honest.

Next time you feel pressured to say yes, try this:

• Pause before responding. Give yourself time to check in with what you really want.

• Use “I” statements. Instead of “I can’t,” say, “I’m not able to commit to this right now.”

• Practice discomfort. Setting boundaries might feel awkward at first—but it gets easier with time.

Your time, energy, and emotions are valuable. You don’t have to sacrifice yourself to be worthy of love and respect.